A friend of mine often talks about her mother who is 98 years old. She's sharp as a tack and has never touched alcohol in her life. Hmmm... there may be something to be said for that!
Jake has a very good friend, Joe, who also joined AA recently. His live-in girlfriend is very NON supportive of him, and he's fallen off the wagon in a BIG way, 3 times in the last few years. I can't help wondering if things could be different if she was more supportive. His girlfriend basically looks at it like, "You did this to yourself, I'm going to still go out and party as much as I want and drink as much as I want, and too bad for YOU if you can't have any alcohol." On one hand, I feel like she has every right to feel like that. It made me kind of mad, at times, that it seemed like Jake put both of us into this position. Why should I have to give up alcohol or feel guilty drinking it, when he's the one who screwed up and lost control??
For the record I should say that Jake has said, many times, that he does not expect me to give up alcohol. But he has also said that it's easier to give up alcohol when you're living with someone who doesn't drink much (he said it was hard to give it up during his last marriage because his wife and her whole family drink a LOT). So I want to try to be as supportive as I can. It's not like I'm giving up something that's going to have any kind of a negative impact on my life!
I'm grateful that my local neighborhood bar knows how to make a kickass virgin mango margarita!!!